Step Parenting.
Its (as I see it) the single biggest relationship buster. We meet someone new a special and they, or you or both of you have kids.
The top 5 Step Parenting potholes to avoid at all costs
Kids disrespecting the Step Parent.
Step Parent trying to be the Parent.
The "other" Parent interfering/undermining you/your new family
The Step Parent disliking their partners kids.
Treating your own kids differently to your step kids.
Its also important to acknowledge how difficult it is to live in the same house with a step child/children you don't like. As Parents we tend to let things slide with our own kids. however we are way less tolerant with the step kids. It seems to just be nature. How hard is it to say to your partner "I don't like your kids". But I tell you what. Its worse if you don't say it. At least by talking things through you get a resourceful resolution. If you don't then very bad things will happen not only for you but for all inhabitants under your roof.
Parents are people too and they are just trying to get their own lives sorted as well. Blended families are difficult and can wear down seemingly strong relationships down till they break. Blended families can work and work great, however they need specialist attention and the ability to talk about the things we don't want to talk about. Have one on one time together away from all kids. Time to discuss what needs sorting and time where its just romance. No couple can survive when all they talk about is their kids.
Also important is to have quality time with your own kids. Not everything has to be blended.
Talk about the things you don't want to talk about. This is hard. It requires respect and brutal honesty.
Get the ground rules/expectations sorted before you move in together.
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