Women and guilt

I see committed hard working CEO's, business owners, managers looking after everything and everyone and coming at great expense on their own well being.

I'll add another group in here, working Mothers. You know who you are. The man walks out the door in the morning and heads to work...thinking about his work.

The working Mum heads out the door thinking

where are the kids today?
whats for dinner?
does the washing need doing?
what family crisis needs sorting?

.....oh and what work pressure do I need to deal with today?



So my question for you is "Who is looking after you?"

You spend you whole time getting work and family sorted it comes at a personal expense. It ends up with burnout, low sex drive, diminishing personal relationships and work results suffer.
And at the end of the day, is it all worth it?

And I will add another one in here. Women have a list of things to do a mile long and if you look very carefully (often needing a magnifying glass to see) you see a thing called "me" at the bottom of that list.
And heaven forbid you put "me" any higher up the list...you have this thing called "guilt" which slams "me" right back down to the bottom of that list.

So heres my challenge:

1. Men. Step up to the plate. There is no law that says cooking and cleaning is womens work. Get involved with your kids lives (you will thank me for taking up this advice). Get with the program. We are all busy so its no excuse to use the "I'm tired/too busy" excuse.  No excuses.

2. Women. I have a saying. "You cant help the poor by being poor". This means if you keep yourself at the bottom of the list then you are doing no one any favours. If you are at the bottom of the list you have nothing to give. Answer?

Put yourself at the top of the list. And ditch the guilt. There I said it. Its ok to do stuff for yourselves. Really. Your workplace and family will thank you for it because you will be happier.

Life is meant to be fun and exciting. Yes it has its stresses, trials and tribulations. That's called being a human being to go through this kind of thing. But ultimately we are meant to enjoy life and on of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to look after yourselves first and get someone to be there for you.